February 1, 2017

You’d laugh out loud if you saw the list that I had for my future husband. Back in the day I remember scribbling a list of only 40 or so things qualities I was looking for. I’d heard on Dr Phil (ha ha) about the 80/20 rule. For anyone new to the "80/20 rule for relationships," it's the theory that says, in a fairly healthy relationship you only get 80 percent of what you want. So I figured that this extensive list I had written was totally OK because I was only really chasing 80% of it.

But here’s the thing, the longer your list is, the harder it is to find that person. It’s like saying that you want to buy a black dress, just below the knee, made of denim with sleeves that end just before the elbow, a size zip and five faux buttons down the back. That’s all. Just a black dress. Lol. What would be the chances of finding that?! None.

So a few years ago I re-did my list and I thought I’d share it with you....

January 19, 2017

Proposing to my fiancé Sandra was one happiest moments of my life. That day was perfect and I never could’ve imagined a more beautiful setting than Paris as the place to pop the question. Quite frankly, I was breathing a sigh of relieve, not because I was worried that she wouldn’t say yes but because I was able to keep my plans a secret, and that the proposal would be something she would always remember and cherish. 

I realize that most people won’t have the opportunity to propose in The City of Lights…trust me, if it hadn’t been for the fact I had to fly to Bulgaria to ask her vacationing parents and Sandra’s business photo shoot in Paris, the peak at Mammoth Mountain was going to be the place. But once Paris became one of the destinations during our Christmas Holiday trip, I changed my plans.

I'd like to share a few things I learned about proposals. 

First, plan a proposal that has meaning to your b...

January 12, 2017

This photo posted by world famous photographer Fran Bolini from The Paris Photographer has been like and viewed by thousands of people from around the world. But his two biggest fans are right here.

This is more than a fabulous photo for us. Not going to lie...Anthony looks hot and my coat, legs and makeup are en pointe. Lol. But Fran captured more than that. This photo says everything about our relationship. The love, excitement and adrenaline on the bridge that day was really something. 

I have to be honest... I have never had dreams of a wedding or really ever seen myself as a bride but I can tell you that I have waited my entire life in hope... in hope that the feeling captured here really did exist and that I really would find it.

I'm so excited to share with you in our future posts the story of how we met (yes - online!), how we dated and our views on dating and relationships. This feed is NOT a co...

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